The decision to elope can sometimes stir up mixed emotions from friends and family, leading to judgments and opinions about whether it’s a selfish choice. I recently heard a story about a couple who initially planned a big wedding but ultimately decided to cancel it and elope. Why? Because their guest list became a source of frustration. People were upset about not being invited, not being allowed a guest, or having strong opinions about the wedding plans. The couple, tired of the drama, decided to skip it all and go back to their original idea of eloping.

Some people labeled their decision as selfish, but I completely disagree.

Your Wedding, Your Way

Weddings are often seen as events to please others, but at the heart of it, they are about two people celebrating their love and commitment. It’s your big day, and it should reflect your values, wishes, and dreams. If the stress of planning a large wedding, accommodating others’ opinions, and dealing with drama takes away from the joy of the day, why not choose the path that feels right for you?

For this couple, eloping was the perfect solution to avoid the stress of navigating everyone else’s expectations. By doing what was right for them, they reclaimed their special day and made it a true reflection of their love story.

Eloping Isn’t Selfish; It’s Personal

Choosing to elope isn’t about shutting people out or avoiding the celebration. Instead, it’s a deeply personal decision about how you want to experience one of the most important days of your life. Whether a couple wants a big party or a quiet, intimate ceremony, their choice should be respected. After all, the day is about them. And when a wedding becomes more about pleasing others than the couple, it’s easy to lose sight of what matters most.

Avoiding the Drama

Weddings often come with a lot of input from others—invites, guest lists, seating charts, attire, traditions—the list goes on. But when that input starts to cause friction or stress, it’s only natural for a couple to reconsider their plans. Eloping is a way to skip the drama and focus on what’s truly important: your commitment to each other.

A Day to Remember

At the end of the day, what matters is how you feel about your wedding. It’s your memories, your photos, and your experience. Whether you opt for a grand celebration or an intimate elopement, do what feels true to you. The people who truly care about you will understand, and they’ll be happy knowing that you did what was best for yourselves.

So, is it selfish to elope? Absolutely not. It’s your day—celebrate it your way.

Whether it’s an elopement or a large celebration, I’d love to help you create memories that last a lifetime. Let’s chat!